It’s Time-out Now

Time-out is very effective discipline technique when a child misbehaves. Time-out works well with pre-schooling as well as schooling children. By adopting this method, parents can refrain themselves from using conventional punishment such as hitting, yelling, scolding, spanking or nagging.  In other words, parents will be disciplining their children instead of punishing them. When we punish a child, he more often fails to understand the needs for a punishment but with positive discipline, he will at least be able make some sense. Discipline gives the child a chance to repent and be more responsible with his actions next time while at the same time, show that he is respected and trusted and as such punishment is unnecessary for him to realize his mistake.

How to Employ Time-out

Remove the child from the place where he misbehaves.

Time-out enables parents and everyone involved to remain clam. Both parents and the child will have a “cooling period” that they will need to ponder and reflect on the cinflict that has just arisen. This is something that parents should take seriously as they should be held accountable whenever a child behaves improperly. 

Get a safe and uninteresting room

Choose a room with less or no distractions so that he would be able to reflect on his mistakes. Avoid keeping the child in places where he might create mischief when left alone, such as the bathroom or store room. Parents can even get the child to stand in the corner of a room, with the child facing the corner. During the whole process, avoid any eye contact with him; it’s better than his sight is averted from everyone who passes by. The child must not have the chance to interact   with other during the time-out process. In other words, he must be well truly isolated.

Time the child’s time-out well

The child will need to be isolated for about 2-10 minutes, depending on his age. Make sure that the selected range of time frame is appropriate. Time-out for smaller children should be shorter because they have a limited attention span. It makes little sense to give a 5 year old 45minutes of time, when after 15 minutes or less he will get bored and begins playing around again. Time-out will only count from the moment the child begins to be quiet, even if several minutes or an hour had passed by before the child starts to behave. This is especially true for older kids as they are generally more resistant to instructions.

Explain why the child needs a time-out

Toddlers usually take longer time than older kids to calm down and sit quietly. In a firm but pleasant voice, explain to the child what he has done and why he is being disciplined. Parents could also try talking to their child in a louder and firmer tone, but be careful not to shout or yell. Shouting or yelling will only worsen the situation as the child may get agitated and retaliate with more shouting matches. If the child does not seem to listen, parents can try using eye contact to get the child to pay attention. Chances are the child will not easily obey the parent’s instruction. He might create distractions even as he is being led to the time out room.

Continue time – out if misbehavior persists

Tell the child that unless he behaves himself, he will have to continue sitting in time-out. Do not pay heed to any of his attempt to gain attention until the time-out period is over. If he tries to move about or walk away, don’t simply go for the cane. It will suffice to use proper body language to get across the message. Upon completion of the ordeal, it is necessary to explain to the child that he needs to promise not to repeat the same offence again or he’ll have to go through the disciplinary process all over again.

Parents must share a common understanding and agreement

The situation can also deteriorate when parents are not in agreement with one another. One parent may have the tendency to give in to the demands of the child while the other stands firm. Parents must have a clear understanding with one another of what is best for the child. Clashes of opinions and values among parents will only lead to more serious problems within the family. The child will only grow up with a habit of hurting his parents as his own emotional needs are not met. Parents must note that it is equally important to support and encourage good behavior rather than just punishing the child whenever he misbehaves.

Understand that time-out may not work always

Bear in mind that time out is just one of the methods of instilling discipline and parents may have to adjust the methods used to fit their own parenting style and their child’s temperament. Parents should be aware when time-out is not effective especially when they have to administer method several times a day or when the child does not seem to be setting down at all during time-out. Among the options parents can choose from are taking away the child’s favorite toy, game or television program or reducing a small amount of the child’s allowance. Nevertheless, the most important aspect in disciplining ac child is to follow up on instructions given to him with explanations on the consequences of his ill-behaved actions.

Punishment in the form of hurting and humiliating the child never serves the true purpose of disciplining children. Disciplining can come in many ways and parents can always use their creativity and experience when disciplining and parenting their children. Only parent know and understand their offspring like the back of their hand so parents should never hesitate to employ their own methods of disciplining if all else fails.

I my self was used some kind of this way to settle down the child who are misbehaves last time, but I always mention to the children if who not obey I will let them sit on the naughty chair, but the child will do the same mistake in later time. Through this article I found that is another better way to settle down the child who make mistakes or lost control their emotion.
When children behave improperly we may let them know their mistakes and leave them along in a place that is less distraction for reflecting on their mistakes. I am very happy found this good idea to hander this kind of problems, now I understand that benefit of time-out. Punishment just a temporary control their behavior not for live long because some children may not know what the actual purpose why they not aloud to do this and that. In coming day when they are not more constraint form parents or anyone, they may go back the same mistake.